How Bootstraps Will Change Your Life.

There's a model I am working on that will help in making monumental life decisions like finding partners, friends, career paths, what job to take, and the like. This model bootstraps on one's desire to be successful. This means that it assumes and requires the individual to have a rough idea of where and who they want to be in the future. Emphasis is (and should be) placed on a "rough idea" as one cannot fully know the trajectory of their life. If one doesn't have any idea, this model suggests noticing yourself and the lives of people you respect and try to replicate that as much as possible. These people do not necessarily have to be alive today. Read history and try to replicate the lives of those who truly lived. Look in your life, find a person you respect on a visceral level, notice why you respect them, and replicate it.

Once that's accomplished, then the number one rule, I believe, is to strive for future compatibility. Future compatibility here refers to a temporal coexistence where the decision you make today does not conflict with the person you hope to be. More concretely, when people scouting, i.e., picking friends, business partners, or significant others, never adopt one with the hope of changing them or on their promise of change, especially if they are adults. In other words, select them as they are not on the promise of future upgrades. What this means, for example, is that if you would like to be a philosopher, and you pick a partner or friend that hates philosophy, you most likely made the wrong decision. This model compels you to select a person whose growth will be compatible with the future version of you, as they are now. That's a two-way street.

The implications of this model of decision-making are quite metacognitive because it compels you to consider people's philosophy and overarching narrative before you choose them in your life. It also means paying attention to what they do as much as what they say. Specifically, it means selecting people with values that you share. These values, if they're worth their salt, demand their future upgrades. This is why most wise people advise the young to marry those who share the same philosophy as you, i.e., Christians should marry Christians and the like. This ensures that the mythos they live out calls them to better behavior and fully live out that value. Then you know, ceteris paribus, that their future upgrades are pretty much guaranteed and will be in line with the enhancements you hope to make in your future.

This can also be applied to selecting a job or a career path. Select a job or a career that will be compatible with the person you hope to be in the future. This means selecting a job with highly flexible scheduling if you're an aspiring musician or a position that does not lock you in for an extended period of time if the future version of you will switch tracks. Or it means selecting that accounting job if you are expecting a child because of the security it provides.

Overall, this model encourages a person to extend the time frame of an action they already perform. It is an antidote to one-half of the Kierkegaardian existential problem (that is, the problem of getting lost in the infinite.) It is also a model that bootstraps itself into common sense philosophy and decision making.

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